If you’ve ben following me for very long, then you know I’m all about asking for what you want.
This can be a concrete verbal request, or it can be a prayer or positive thought. When you let your wishes be known to your friends, family, God, or the universe; they are more likely to be granted.
But what is really amazing is when someone who knows you really well provides something you needed before you even knew to ask for it.
That’s what I’m writing to tell you about today.
My good friend Alex Okoroji did for me this week. She gave me an opportunity to do some advance promotion for my second book. She even helped give it a name.
You can read more about it in This Guest Post.
During the holidays I heard lots of ads for diet programs, exercise equipment, fitness centers, etc. I thought hey I learned a lot about diet and nutrition while preparing to have gastric surgery. I thought people think my weight loss experience is inspiring even though I had surgery as part of my process. So, maybe I should write an ebook on the subject.
I started writing down some of my thoughts. My first full chapter ended up being about how depriving yourself doesn’t work and that its not the food that is the problem but the amounts of it we purchase or make.
I was thinking of a title of under the knife what I learned about diet, exercise, and human nature while preparing to have gastric surgery.
I continued writing chapters. I even drew up a tentative outline. Since authors always need encouragement, I shared my writing with some of my close friends.
One of the people I sent my work to was Alex. She read them and encouraged me to keep after it. And she was the one who told me that its not the cookie its the bag would be a better book title. She compared it to Who Moved My Cheese.
Last week I sent her a chapter on affirmations. I think the reason why affirmations don’t work for a lot of people is they are hard to use when you are struggling. You have to get used to using them and stick to it. So, I wrote that chapter and sent it off to her. She was so impressed by it that she made me an amazing offer.
She said Max how about we get you some advance publicity for the book and introduce your writing to my audience? I said yes about six times. I had done Alex’s radio show The Naked Talk twice, and I am well aware of the power of her community.
And the one thing I learned from my first book is that you can never start promoting one too early. So, she edited my chapter for reading as a blog post. And she uploaded it to her site.
You can See It Here.
But it wasn’t until after the post was live that I realized just how great a favor she had done for me. You see the reason most people don’t accomplish more is they are afraid to announce to themselves and to the world that they are going to do it.
I understand this. We are afraid of looking foolish should our dream not become reality. But by keeping the dream to ourselves we also don’t have anyone to help hold us accountable. Goals and dreams take action. Action is easier when you know people are watching.
As I’ve gone through the process of having gastric surgery, losing over half my body weight, and getting healthier; I’ve been encouraged by all the people who followed my progress and cheered me on via the internet. I have gone through the process with heart, determination, and humility. So, even when my progress wasn’t as good as i wanted; I still felt love and support. And this was critical to my continuing to move forward and succeed. I don’t want to disappoint myself, but more importantly I never want to disappoint all those people who are inspired and motivated by me.
Alex’s post was the first time I told the world that I am working on a weight loss book. I prefer to think of it as a book about living healthier and making better choices, but amazon doesn’t have a category for that.
I have noticed that since then I am more open about telling other people I am working on this project. I have mentioned it in my last two radio interviews, and I have been sending the book or at least a chapter to host I’m pitching for future shows. I have even started approaching hosts of shows I’ve already done to see about going back on their show to talk about this second book.
And I should mentioned that when Alex posted the guest post she modified the book title just a bit. She called it its not the cookie its the jar. I’m not sure which is better. The latter name might offer more merchandising options down the road.
I want to challenge you to share at least one of your life goals in the comments section. I want to hear those big crazy dreams that you have never shared with anyone else. And as always if you aren’t comfortable saying it out loud, you can email me with it. It will all be completely confidential.
Sharing Is Caring
I am so grateful to Alex. She has been and continues to be an amazing friend. She has already invited me to appear on her show again when the book is published. And she is always there to encourage me and remind me that I am a super star.
I hope you have at least one friend like her in your life. If you don’t, then I strongly urge you to go out and make one. They can be online or off. As you can tell from me distance doesn’t have to keep you from making real connections.
I thank you for taking the time to read my work and visit the sites of people I have mentioned. I know you have lots of demands on your time. You also have lots of options for information, education, inspiration, and entertainment. So, thanks and take care out there, Max