Hello again; People often ask how I manage to stay so positive and optimistic. They say no one can find the good in everything. They say you must have down days, and they would be right.
Well, maybe I don’t have down days; but I have had down minutes or hours. So, I thought today I would share something I have done to help remind me of how good I am doing.
What is a gratitude page?
In the post title I asked you if you had a gratitude page on your blog or website. In order for you to answer the question I first need to explain what this is. We all have had some success in our business or professional lives. However, we don’t always think about these good days when we are in the middle of a stressful situation. Just one bad event can have you feeling like a failure and questioning whether or not you should even be doing whatever it is you are doing.
So, what if you had a way to remind yourself of just how well you are doing and just how far you have come? This is where the gratitude page comes in. With abundance or gratitude the more you focus on it the more of it you will have in your life. The gratitude page is a way of reminding yourself of your past achievements.
A while back someone suggested having a file on your computer with a list of all your accomplishments so you could look at it when you needed some motivation or inspiration. They suggested you could even create a board in your home or office with photos and clippings. I decided that since everything now days is online why not create a page for this on my website. So, what I did is to create a page I call as seen online. It has links to every time that I have appeared on another person’s website. This includes interviews, guest posts, and podcast appearances.
How I use it
Now any time I start to wonder if I am ever going to reach the level of success I hoped for when starting out; I can go visit this page. I can click on the links and read what people said about me in their round up posts. I can read the comments from my guest posts. I can read the replies from the site owners. I can check out the number of comments and shares. I can also see how my writing and my message have progressed as I have gotten more of these experiences. All of this helps to remind me of how far I have come.
An unintended benefit
This gratitude page serves another purpose that I had not intended on. Say, someone is considering asking me to write a guest post or take part in their podcast? Or what if I want to submit a story idea or an idea for collaborating on a video or some other project? Now, when someone wants to know more about me, I can send them that link along with links to my websites and blogs. It acts as a kind of poor man’s digital press kit. Some sites will allow you to include two links with a guest post. For future reference I plan to use the as seen on link as my second one.
My good friend and sometimes editor Lorraine Reguly recently had the idea to turn it into an even more impressive calling card. She suggested that we replace the plain text links with links using the site owner’s logo. Like I said everything is online. Well, everything online works better with images. 🙂 She convinced me of this, so I asked the site owners for permission to use their logos. Everyone was very generous. Lorraine redid the page for me. Everyone likes it, and I’ve even gotten a comment posted to it.
You do have accomplishments to include
Now, before you tell me you have never done anything that merits being on such a page; I will tell you you just haven’t thought about it long enough yet. We have all done things we are proud of, but the continued push for even bigger successes causes a lot of us to discount our wonderful victories. I know that I don’t always give myself credit for things until I sit down and think about all of them. This used to be only when a friend asked me the question so I had to actually make a list. Trust me if you start counting those events on your fingers you will most likely need both hands. But you have to actually make a list and count them.
A recent example
As an example last week an interviewer asked me what accessible technology i used when we still had the carnival. I told her I only got my first computer with speech a year and a half before the show folded. Until then me and my dad had booked spots using a large wall calendar, a perkins braille writer, and our memories. And with only seven rides we managed to compete with much larger shows with lots more resources. I had forgotten about that, but when someone forced me to think of those days; I was impressed with what I had done to help keep the family carnival rolling. I’m sure you have experiences that give you pleasure, you have just forgotten or under valued them.
Now, when I add a new link to my gratitude page I take a few minutes to read back through the other links and remember how it felt when I got the news about each one. It always puts me in a good mood. Even the ones I had to ask for, and even the ones where I thought what am I thinking when I did them. They are all blessings and I was blessed in some way by each one of them.
The lesson is that we all have to take the time to appreciate ourselves. We have all done great things, we just don’t always realize it at the time. For some its because they were raised not to brag; and they see recalling successes as bragging. Some people honestly don’t realize how special what they are doing or have done really is. I used to be one of these with the awe shucks any time someone said how impressed, inspire, or motivated they were by my actions. Far to many of you are just too busy working a regular job, taking care of family, learning new skills, trying to build a business, etc. And some people are so focused on the big goal that none of the little successes along the way mean anything to them. I know that you have to celebrate every victory and sometimes it helps if you can go back and relive one of your better days.
Did you make a list?
I know that if I had read a post like this, or maybe while I was reading it; I would be thinking about how it applies to me. So did you make a list? If so, did you do it in your head, did you say it out loud; or did you actually write it down? Do you already have a similar page on your website or blog? Has this post encouraged you to think about starting one? I hope it has because accomplishments grow when you think about them, count them, and especially when you give thanks for them.
Sharing is caring
This is the part where I ask you to share the post or leave a comment. But I want to be different. If you enjoyed reading the post, then I hope you will visit the page and click through to these people who have been so generous by inviting me to be part of their communities. Once there, you may decide to read a post and discover a new voice that can teach you more about yourself, your business, or why you are here. If this example motivated you to start your own page, then please mention that in the comments. Feel free to share some of the good stuff that you plan on including. Let’s have this be a positive love fest that gets us all ready to take that next step. And if you feel uncomfortable leaving a comment, there is always the contact form.
I love hearing from you regardless of the reason. If you want to get to know me better or if you just want to say hello. If you have a question, just ask. I’m known for being too open if anything. If you have a post you want to share or something you need my help with; I’ll do what I can. It may turn out that you are a perfect client for my coaching services. Or I may be able to help with just a kind word. Whatever, I am here for you. Thanks and take care out there, Max